A Peek Into Gorgeous Golding’s Mind: The Struggle Mentality

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By Gorgeous Golding™️

Life is just crazy, and I wonder why she is so.

I mean…

Who taught you to choose what doesn’t choose you?

Why is mutuality of interest perceived as low value?

Who has brainwashed us to think that if it’s easy, then it’s cheap and substandard?

Truth is, we humans are liars to ourselves. Because tell me, how did you suddenly start chasing after something the minute it stopped chasing you?

What changed?

I mean, it’s still the same thing. But simply because you felt unease, its value increased.

It’s a struggle mentality.

Man Must Sweat Syndrome.

Fighter’s OCD.

If it doesn’t involve a struggle and doesn’t break a sweat, then it’s not worth having or keeping.

TF?

It’s in us all. This mentality has affected every facet of our lives.

Some things are just gifts scattered on the face of the earth. You don’t struggle, work, or fight over things that are free.

Why are you judging gifts by labour? Couldn’t you just receive them freely with gratitude instead of making a mockery of their arrival?

Little wonder the free things of life are rebranded and sold for a couple of bucks.

Little wonder you have to pray longer for things that are already yours.

Why?

Because you can’t believe or imagine that what you actually desire and are praying for could ever be easy and free.

Little wonder dreams are taking longer to come true. I mean, the reason why it’s a dream in the first place is because you never imagined you would have it.

Who are we deceiving?

We’re praying for ease but secretly looking forward to telling the world how hard and how long it took for our answers to come. Else, it’s not worth calling a miracle or even worth celebrating.

We’ve become so familiar with struggle that ease almost feels suspicious.

Who are we deceiving?

We’re our own stumbling block. We want it, but we don’t want it easy. We desire it now, but our ego wants to be fanned by the story behind it.

What if I told you that it could have happened in a moment, right from when you thought about it?

But no.

Life already knew how shallow, unappreciated, belittling, demeaning, and ungrateful a simple miracle could become if it appeared sooner.

So, it chose to wait. To increase your expectation, interest, and value.

Your artificial, self-made value that does not even scratch the surface of the real value of what you want.

No wonder you forget shortly after you receive it.

With your one view, one celebration style.

What I’m saying is, life was never intended to be this hard and complicated. We made it so because we’ve narrowed down excitement and happiness to suffering.

That’s why everything seems to be a reward to you. So, if the gift is not camouflaged in a reward label, then it’s not worthy of a blessing.

This is sick.

Like, what?

And you know…

Knowledge like this will never be valued for what it really is, because you ain’t paying or being billed for access to it.

I’m sure you’ve got a thing or two you’ve done without receiving proper recognition for it.

Don’t beat yourself up.

You good.

It’s just the fighter’s mentality at work. It definitely has its good side, but its other effect is wild in application.

They’re just waiting to see you BREAKTHROUGH.

It must be a struggle, else nothing works.

It could be EASETHROUGH, but who cares?

They just want to keep standing in your way, resisting you, with the hope that you would yield and stand with them.

But when you resist and keep pushing until you pull through, they are now in awe and amazement at how you did it. And they instantly think that because you did it, whatever you carried through must be worth something.

Now, value is based on strength, not quality.

So, if you’re stupid and strong, you’d be celebrated for your stupidity.

While value has been defeated and arrested to stand as failure.

It’s a very crazy dynamic of life.

You can’t fight it.

It’s like a virus that has affected every living human being and is on standby, waiting for the ones yet unborn to be born, just to affect them.

No wonder, if you’re not logical and psychological, it’s nearly impossible to thrive in your dealings with any human being. If you’re just natural, without other psychological skills, you’d hardly win.

WIN?

Are we now here to win against each other, at all costs?

How about we win together?

How about helping and carrying each other through?

I guess the fun is in the game, and the game is in the struggle.

The world is bored.

Though it ought not to be so, and was intended not to be so, it is so now. And we can’t help it.

However, a simple awareness like this can go a long way in awakening our consciousness to the beautiful possibilities of life beyond our construct.

I really hope it does.

Beginning with you and I.

~ Gorgeous Golding™️

Purpose. Clarity. Influence.

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