Husband scarcity by Aunty Maureen

This may not be the best time for me
to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push.
“Husband Scarcity” has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a “Husband Scarcity” problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don’t think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and notpark into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and
helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as “Husband
Scarcity” for ourselves.

Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like “he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a
house at least, and be presentable” and then she adds “God fearing” in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet
that standard, and you will see the
problem.
You hear girls say, “I cannot suffer in my father’s house and then go and start suffering with a man.”
What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small.

The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same.
When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one.
Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of “Husband
Scarcity”.
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband
scarcity.
The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is.

A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made
the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE.

IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth.
For those who see marriage as a way out
of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not
HOME WARMERS… DON’T CONFUSE
A MAN’S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a
route to where God has destined him
to be tomorrow.

Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating “husband scarcity”.
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES.
I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying
is that you should stop setting your
standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.

WHAT MAKES A MAN
WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS
OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is
made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

Aunty Maureen