A PEEK INTO GORGEOUS GOLDING’S MIND™: THE PSYCHOLOGY OF TRUST
EPISODE 001
By Gorgeous Golding™
We often enjoy living in doubt.
Let me explain the psychology behind trust.
Trust can engineer even a chronic liar to begin acting trustworthy in the very area where you acknowledge them as trustworthy.
Suddenly, they feel a responsibility to live up to a standard.
Not only because they do not want to fail you, but because they do not want to lose the undeserved trophy they have somehow earned.
To them, it may feel like they are still playing you, trying to maintain the illusion of being who you think they are.
What they do not realize is this:
Routine forms habit.
Habit becomes culture.
Culture becomes a way of life.
And sometimes, the lie people try to maintain eventually becomes the truth they live.
It might sound manipulative, but sometimes, to get the best out of people, you need to treat them like the character you’re demanding from them.
A lot of character dysfunction is simply a result of not knowing better or not believing in the reality of it.
Some people started lying from either witnessing other people lie consistently and naturally around them, almost like it’s normal.
Some adopted lying because of how many times they’ve been lied to.
There’s a saying that broken people break people.
Some lie because they believe everyone else is lying too, for one reason or another.
The best way to address and approach a dysfunctional person is to first understand that it’s not you.
Some people, out of pride and ego or hurt, lament over how cheaply, foolishly, or stupidly they must have been perceived to have received unfair treatment from others.
No!
How people treat you has absolutely nothing to do with you, no matter the condition, but everything to do with them.
They could have chosen to respond or behave differently, but they chose to do exactly what they did.
And since it’s out of the way that it’s not you, it should afford you some grace and empathy for them, at least.
Dysfunction is usually associated with pain, betrayal, ignorance, abuse, ill treatment, and failure.
Our triggers are often a sign of hidden wounds.
How you react to dysfunction is greatly tied to your level of awareness, understanding, and sanity.
Sometimes, we think and react the way we do because we’re also, unfortunately, dysfunctional, dealing with another dysfunctional person.
Then we end up acting like two conflicting ideas.
It’s true.
~ Gorgeous Golding™️
GORGEOUS GOLDING™
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