A Peek Into Gorgeous Golding’s Mind™: See From Where You Are
EPISODE 031
By Gorgeous Golding™️
I once saw a video clip in which some children were asked to choose between a black doll and a white doll. They all chose the white doll, including the Black children among them.
When the children, some of whom were less than three years old, were asked why, their responses were striking. They said they chose the white doll because the black doll was black, and black was ugly and bad.
I don’t think anyone had consciously sat these children down to teach them discrimination, racism, or anything of that nature. Yet, even the Black children gave similar reasons.
This just confirms what was already unconsciously formed in them, just like most of us.
Now I ask: how far have the random things you’ve been seeing reformed your mind and influenced your choices and decisions without you noticing?
I mean, come on! Those kids were probably not informed on what choice to make, but they did.
How?
Society may have shown them. Movies may have projected something similar to them. Et cetera.
Come to think of it, we’ve been made to believe fear to be dark. Night as sorrow and a time for weeping. Morning, of course, as joy.
Those were absolute instances and references without giving room for other possibilities.
In my experience as a writer, I have learned that no situation, story, or person is absolute.
Life is dynamic and should be taught and communicated in that manner.
The reason we end up hurt most times is because we view people through absolute lenses. So, the people we think or are told are bad, we mark them bad and mark their kind as bad as well.
Then the people we think or perceive as good, we reference them as good and model their kind as good.
Forgetting that good is in perspective, and it all depends on who is telling the story, which is often influenced by the angle.
We forget, too, that the version of people we get at any given time and our experience of them largely depend on our reaction to them, too.
That can be determined by our mood, our culture, our mindset, and our social and emotional intelligence and maturity.
It goes both ways.
For instance, if you encounter a perfectly dressed, gorgeous-looking person who the world is probably crashing down on, no matter how much of an appearance they choose to maintain, what you’re getting is not their best version.
Imagine putting a label on a species of human or a culture just because of one person’s unfortunate day.
That single label creates an expectation, and you wonder why people are bad eventually to you?
No.
You’re probably seeing through your programmed mind.
Many of us have eyes but possibly have not used them in a while. The sights we carry are recorded sights from our previous experiences and programming.
So now you wonder why you can’t see anything different.
You can, if you choose to consciously see.
Be present. See from where you are.
Stop visiting the archives of lies in your head.
You may have been wrong or right then, but it’s a different day, a different time, a different opportunity, and a different chance.
Maybe even a different person.
You grow every day. You get better every day. You learn and develop every day.
So do others.
Why trust your outdated yesterday over today?
Experiences are meant to guide you, not to lead you. Else, they would lead you to their destination, which is your past experience.
Is that okay now?
Just think about it and, like I suggested, start seeing from where you are, while you can take some guidance from your experience but never give it the wheels.
People deserve to be trusted and given a chance, just like you also deserve.
Until they’ve shown clear signs or proof of unworthiness, don’t snatch the hope of them proving themselves to you out of their hands.
Let go and hope for the best.
Okay?
Thank you for your time, as always.
~ Gorgeous Golding™️
Purpose. Clarity. Influence.
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