Smooth out that rough marital patch By Aunty Maureen
SMOOTH OUT THAT ROUGH MARITAL PATCH
Here are some tips to keep in mind if you are in such a situation.
Be Mindful of Your Commitment to Each Other
Commitment to each other is essential to having a good marriage. That means putting up with each other in good times and bad. But commitment should not be an excuse for people to disrespect or neglect each other. Commitment does not mean handcuffs. Commitment in marriage is a pledge to love each other and stay supportive in good times and bad. This promise also implies that each party will keep faithful to their vows of acting with long-term love and respect. It means the choices you make will have each other’s best interest in mind.
HAVE A SHARED VISION
Marriage partners are a team working toward the same vision. It should not be about one partner acting without regard for the feelings or interests of the other. It isn’t about obtaining some prize and abusing or neglecting it. It isn’t about one partner being domineering. Nor is it about one spouse expecting the other will make them happy and meet all their needs. If you believe one person can meet all your needs, you are being unrealistic and are sure to be disappointed.
FOCUS ON THE BIG PICTURE
When you or your spouse become agitated or irritable, and the marriage waters seem rough, it can be easy to become self-centered and decide the marriage isn’t worth the effort. Being overly negative is something you can do in almost any situation.
Focusing too much on what’s wrong and what’s missing is bound to bury you and possibly ruin your relationship.
FOSTER A HEALTHY DEPENDENCY
Having real emotional integrity, though, means looking at the bigger picture which might include asking what need is not being met in your life or in your spouse’s life. Once identified, there is something to address, work on, and seek to correct. It’s perfectly okay to ask for your emotional needs to be met by your spouse. Be prepared to offer the same in return. You both should actively strive to depend on each other and not deny your basic human needs for emotional connectivity. At the same time, know that you can’t burden one person alone to meet all of your needs.
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