Kemi Olunloyo; A Doctor in Distress

By Shiloh O Akinyemi.

The prompts I have received, both from friends, and strangers (via mail) to respond to comments made by Kemi Olunloyo about Davido and Tiwa Savage, became too frequent to ignore, a proof of a growing fan base and its corresponding responsibility I would say.

Jany’s view blog in their publication referred to Kemi Olunloyo as a “self acclaimed investigative journalist” and I am afraid I agree, but I am not here to point out how Kemi’s publications constantly lacks the touch of professionalism, but are always perfectly ladened with the sentiments of an attention starved blogger.
I really won’t want to “defame” her twice in one year.

My purpose here, is to make my readers understand that something, like my friend will say, is fundamentally wrong. So, let’s get to it.

“Davido is down! He can never rise again, even by lifting others. I’m not interested in his mourning. His side of the family has ruined many lives including my name and brand”

These were the words I saw on Facebook, and I’ll really like to correct some statements Kemi made.

If Davido rose by lifting others, then I don’t think he is down. The impact he has made, and the lives he has touched, are there staring and taunting haters like Kemi even to this day.

Sincerely, Kemi needs help! And the earlier she gets it, the better. I don’t understand how she can say he lifted and ruined lives in the same sentence. O wrong nau.
And even if Davido is down, Kemi is not God to decide who stays down and who rises up! I think that is God’s full job description, He did lift Davido, and He is still the lifter of whosoever He pleases.
Kemi said David Adeleke has ruined her name and brand. She obviously has the wrong concept of what branding is, and I am one of the many Nigerians who can’t trust anything that says “KEMIFIED”

My worry with this statement, is Kemi’s lack of concern for Davido’s loss. Overtime, from the case of Dowen’s Sylvester, I have seen Kemi throw remarks that make me wonder where exactly her heart is.
The day Ifeanyi Adeleke turned 3, was the day my daughter turned 7 and I couldn’t put myself in Davido’s shoes, because they were damn well too painful to fit! I have never been a huge fan of Davido, but I could relate to his loss and that was enough to evoke sympathy.

Now, let’s move to her comment on Tiwa Savage. Jany’s view blog reported that she told Tiwa to stop singing about her scandal, because she has a son. I didn’t read the whole gist, neither have I listened to the song in question, but something again doesn’t add up. How do you not care about the death of one child, but become “concerned” about the upbringing of another?
I know you all expect me to literally drag Aunty Kemi’s wig, but let’s be reasonable.
You would expect the same level of consistency from someone who knows what they are doing and has a clear head.

A friend of mine, after reading both pieces, concluded that Kemi Olunloyo is one unhappy woman who is temporarily comforted by transferring her unhappiness to others, and I agree, again.
After reading David Hundeyin’s publication titled “How to Spoof an Entire Career: The Curious Story of Kemi Olunloyo”
I now understand that there is a lot of emotional trauma and insecurity issues Kemi Olunloyo has carried over time. All of her claimed achievements are nothing but fallacies and in a bid not to live in misery alone, Kemi is determined to hurt as many as she can.
Will this approach work? Maybe for a child or a teenager, who can still be spanked, corrected and grounded, but certainly not for a 58 year old who should be a granny. If Kemi honestly doesn’t want to end up in the asylum she claimed in 2007 (which this time around might be the left axis of Yaba), then for her sanity and mental health, it is time to let go pride and cry out for help. Nigerians are still the happiest, most helpful people on earth. Kemi will be very well surprised of quarters help will come from. The Rowlands and the Adelekes might have lost sons precious to them, but not their humanity. I bet they will shock her.

Life is beautiful, expressing love is fulfilling, getting hurt is a part of the journey, but healing is what brings freedom.
There is more to life than bitterness, more to life than the lack of empathy.
There is so much more to life than the transfer of aggression.
So although Kemi Olunloyo is constantly pissing you off, remember that she has gone through a lot, is still obviously going through a lot, and a lot more in return, is also going through her.

If Kemi chooses to understand the concept of God’s love, she will indeed become a new creature.
What God cannot do, does not exist.
It is important that we constantly spread love, spread light and spread peace. Let’s all keep “Dr” Kemi Olunloyo in our prayers, as this doctor needs the great physician.

Shiloh O Akinyemi writes under the pen name ShillyPepper, and can be reached via email.
akinshiloh1@gmail.com